There are no take-backs in life.
On July 8th, our zodiac signs will experience two transits that will affect our relationships and love horoscope: Venus sextile Uranus, with Venus in Cancer and Uranus in Taurus, and Mercury conjunct Mars, with both Mercury in Leo and Mars in Leo.
In the coming week, these transits in astrology could have long-lasting effects, especially if we act before thinking. Venus sextile Uranus will be responsible for sudden and unexpected changes within our relationships, while Mercury conjunct Mars will increase our frustration and chance at doing something we may later come to regret.
This is the last aspect between Venus and Uranus for this year, and the second of three conjunctions between Mercury and Mars. So while a situation within a relationship will peak around this time, it’s likely we won’t actually see the resolution until September.
Venus in Cancer is focused on the home and family, while Uranus in Taurus is more concerned with our sense of stability and the foundations that we build everything else around in our lives. Together, they represent a change not just within an intimate part of our lives, but also within the structures that support our dreams and deepest desires.
Uranus just began his new seven-year cycle in Taurus earlier this spring, so many of these aspects we’re seeing during these first few months of his stint are letting us know more about what this transit will represent for us. They are more important to a degree because we haven’t seen Uranus make these aspects in Taurus for decades, and it’s the first time we’re feeling that effect in our lives.
Venus represents love and relationships, but in Cancer becomes more focused on serious relationships, those that are in a sense closest to home. Uranus is the planet of sudden and unexpected change, and in Taurus it’s all about making things right. It’s not the Uranus-Aries energy we’ve all been under the influence of in previous years, in which we sometimes acted before thinking or followed a whim only to realize that we made a decision we now regret.
However, that doesn’t mean we’re off the hook as far as possible regret goes. Mercury is the planet that rules communication and thinking, and in Leo it becomes extremely passionate about what matters most. It speaks greater truth and rarely backs down from a fight.
But with Mars, the planet that rules the masculine, ambition and even anger, it runs the risk of getting over-emotional and saying or doing something it wishes it could take back.
This is an interesting bout of energy to be under, knowing that we are working towards stronger foundations (Uranus) within our relationships (Venus), but also being aware that we may say (Mercury) or do something (Mars) we may later regret, or wish we could take back.
All of this is also occurring just a day before Mercury turns retrograde and is sandwiched within the two-week wild card window that the eclipses represent.
There is going to be a strong energy to initiate change here, to get up and do something, to work for what we want, and to throw off anything that feels stagnant or controlling. In some ways, this astrology is similar to the door of a cage finally being thrown open and being told we’re free. We may feel excitable, impulsive, and eager to explore our newfound freedom.
But each choice comes with a cost . This isn’t to say that we shouldn’t follow our hearts or jump on certain opportunities, but it’s crucial we stay aware of the motives pushing us to speak or act.
This also correlates with a possible significant time for relationships to be ending. Often times in relationships, once things get to that space of no longer being healthy or having run their course, we become freer with our words. We no longer try to protect the feelings of another, and we can’t play nice when what we want is to not play at all. Because of this, we may be more apt to burn a bridge rather than walk in a new direction.
For some relationships, the burning of the bridge may not be a catastrophic event; however, for those that involve family, friends or children, it could prove to make things more difficult in the long run. No, we can’t all be besties with our ex, nor do we want to, but we can walk away with as much peace as possible.
There is no escaping the change that Uranus and this eclipse season is going to bring to our love lives, but we can choose to make the most of it and act as our best selves in the process. It’s important to stay aware of ourselves and feelings. We can follow our hearts, we can live a life of truth and walk away from those situations that no longer resonate, but we can also do it with peace and integrity as well.
This may mean that we bite our tongues a bit, that we try to not become reactive if triggered, and that we think twice before saying or doing something, especially if it’s in the heat of the moment.
While this is the last aspect this year Venus will make to Uranus, the next one doesn’t occur until January 2020. We will see Mercury and Mars conjunct once again, which means that whatever we do now, whatever choices we make won’t fully play out to resolution until September.
September is a big month for many of the events that began back in June, and just as we didn’t know the full story then, we still don’t know it now. We can only do our best each day and try to remain objective when it comes to those we’re in relationship with.
Even if single, it’s important to take note of, because we don’t want to push people away or sabotage a new relationship just because of feelings that we’re having in the moment. We can always change, we can always improve and grow, but there are no take-backs in life. So when making a choice, make sure it’s one you can live with.
Kate Rose is an artist, writer, passionate yogi, spiritual astrologist, relationship and life coach. For more of her work, visit her website.