Here’s why ‘loving yourself first’ isn’t realistic for everyone.

By Laura Snelling

One of the most common pieces of dating advice is, “no one can love you until you love yourself first.”

If there’s one thing I’ve heard the most in my years of dealing with mental illness, it’s that statement.

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard it.

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I’d be lying if I said I don’t want to be in love right now.

To have someone on difficult days to comfort me and keep me in tune with reality would be wonderful.

It would also be nice to share my life with someone who cares enough to want the same.

Still, people like to tell me the reason I haven’t found anyone yet is because I don’t know how to love myself.

This advice is a completely and utterly false statement and is an absolute slap in the face.

For people like me, who are now in their 20’s, but have dealt with mental illness from a very young age, it feels like our chances of fully recovering dwindle the closer we get to 30.





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