Are you trying to reignite the spark in the bedroom?
It may be difficult to keep things hot and steamy over time which is why it’s very important to constantly try new things.
Sanna Norrvidd, a KY Jelly somatic sex and relationship coach, holds sessions for individuals and couples who experience challenges, fear and trauma around sex.
As sex can often become way too serious and goal-orientated, it’s simple for the spark to fissile out within a couple.
Luckily, there’s a way to bring that passion back and all it takes is by trying sandboxing during sex.
Sandboxing comes from the idea that as children you just play in a sandbox and “create” freely, but in this case you’re able to get curious and explore things under the sheets.
It’s an opportunity to mess up, laugh and make things light-hearted instead of getting serious because no one likes that.
The sex method is a perfect way for you to find out what your partner likes but without reaching any goal.
Sanna shared her tips for sandboxing:
How to do it: Whether you have 10 minutes or an hour, set a time limit and split it in half by taking turns being the one that is receiving or offering touch.
The partner who is offering will explore four main elements: speed, pressure, location and style and you can ask questions like ‘do you like this?’ to keep it hot.
You can warm up for sandboxing during foreplay, start by breathing and gazing into your lover’s eyes.
Put on some great music in the bedroom and cover your eyes with blindfolds, this gives you a sexual experience with high definition.
The partner receiving must be honest and communicate to give feedback so you know exactly how you both like it.
It’s important to create a safe space with open communication where all the pressure can come off the table and where failure is welcomed and accepted.
So now you know what you’re doing, go and give it a try!