I don’t like crying. I don’t think I’m alone on this one.

I do know that I feel better after I cry, so I can appreciate what might be appealing to people about that wrung-out lightness that comes after a good bout of sobbing. However, the actual act of crying itself is something I can’t stomach.

I think it’s partially because I also know I’m not cute when I cry. I get red in weird places and snot is somehow almost immediately everywhere.

It’s not all that superficial, though. It’s also because, to many people, crying means losing control — and when you’re a woman, the last thing you want is to be seen as “hysterical” if you want to be taken seriously.

After all, when a woman cries in front of a man, it seems as though, even if he temporarily takes pity on her, we worry that he may forever see her as either weak or overly emotional.

The truth is that (pretty much) everyone cries, even if we do it for different reasons. I am just as likely to cry when I’m sad as I am when I’m angry or scared or frustrated. It’s just something that my face, you know, does.

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Crying around men, especially men I’m dating or involved with romantically, is the actual definition of the worst in my mind. I am constantly terrified that a guy will see my tears as lack of emotional maturity or think that I’m just crying to manipulate him and get my way.

I know I’m not alone in this. Lots of women hate crying in front of men, so I decided to run an anonymous survey and find out what men think when a woman cries in front of them.





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