After a while, being told that “love will find us” gets really old. And frankly, we’re just sick of waiting. So, why waste time waiting when you could be out writing your own dating romance story? Stop sitting around hoping that some mystical Mr. Right will magically appear in front of you and sweep you off of your feet and get your strong, beautiful self out there!
But you may be wondering where to meet men that you’ll actually, you know… like. Why not actually use your specific love language to determine the best places for you to find guys that will fit your relationship needs? It sounds like a perfect start to us!
These are the best places to meet men, based on which of the five love languages you most identify with.
If this is your love language, then the most important thing will be for you to get to know your potential romantic partner. Having intimate conversations where the focus is completely on what you’re discussing is critical for you to get to know someone. You crave those one-on-one interactions.
So the best place for you to meet a man would be somewhere quiet and intimate where you can talk to guys without interruptions or loud music.
A coffee shop would be a great location to start because most people go there so they can get a coffee and work or be on their laptops in a quiet space. Plus, you usually have to share tables at a coffee shop. So grab a nice latte and invite yourself to sit at a table when you find someone who catches your eye.
Another perfect place for this love language to meet men is at a wine tasting. Wine tastings are about as intimate as you can get without actually being on a date. It’s the best opportunity to get to know someone and have a private discussion. And, hello, there’s wine!
Some other suggestions are taking a class where you can partner up and get to know someone, like a cooking class, a dancing class, or a foreign language class. May we recommend the OG love language, French?
You’ve always preferred physical affection over verbal affection. Physical touches make you feel loved and are usually your favorite part of a relationship.
Your best bet is to go somewhere where you can get up close and personal. Obviously, a club or somewhere where you can go dancing is your best bet. Parties and concerts are also good options. There are obviously a lot of single people at parties and concerts and a lot of opportunities to get close to someone.
But there’s also somewhere your love language can meet guys that you’d probably never guess, yet you might be using it every day. Public transportation is an excellent choice. On a subway, you usually have to be in close quarters to other people anyway, so why not take the opportunity to sit or stand next to someone cute and start chatting them up.
Acts of Service
This love language’s first love is being helpful. You love to lend a helping hand and you spend the majority of your free time and energy helping out your community in some way.
So you need to find a man who’s as passionate as you are about changing the world. Volunteering is the ideal place to find the man of your love language’s dreams. When you volunteer, you’ll not only be doing something you know that both of you are passionate about, but you’ll also be able to talk to guys about your shared passions and get to know them better.
For example, if you’ve been volunteering at animal shelters your whole life, try approaching the cute new guy who’s just started volunteering with you. He’s obviously an animal lover and that’s pretty much the first bullet point on your list of qualities in a man you’d like to date.
You can’t resist a guy who shows his affection through thoughtful, beautiful gifts. Do you have a favorite place you like to go to treat yourself? The key here is to go wherever you usually go when you need a little pick-me-up or where you like to reward yourself by buying something pretty.
If you happen to meet your dream man there, it’ll always have a special place in both of your hearts and this is where he’ll go to get you a gift because he knows it’s your favorite place.
Looking for a little inspiration? A vacation is actually a good place for your love language to find men. After all, is there any better gift than a vacation? It’s obvious that you’re both there to relax and you both love traveling, so start the conversation by asking what other locales he’s been to.
And if you really hit it off, you can do some fun vacation activities together to see if what you like to do on your “me” time matches up.
If vacationing isn’t in your foreseeable future, there’s a more everyday approach for you to find guys. The grocery store is the hot place to be! Although you might questioning our sanity right now, hear us out first. Everyone has to get groceries and ice cream is a gift we’re all pretty passionate about giving ourselves. This is all you need to know.
Words of Affirmation
Verbal confirmations of love are your thing. You’re the kind of woman who swoons when the leading man makes his big love confession in a movie or whose heart skips a beat when reading romantic poetry.
The first thing you need to do is get yourself to an open mic night, girl. You may just find the next Shakespeare willing and ready to dedicate all the sweet love poems to a woman who shares his passions.
Or if the performers don’t catch your eye, you may just find another audience member who shares your enthusiasm for romantic literature. You can also attend a reading or just hit up the library. What better place is there to find fellow hopeless romantics?
So no matter what your love language is, there’s a special guy waiting somewhere out there for you. All you have to do now is take the lead and get yourself out there.
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Sloane Solomon is a professional writer and editor who specializes in love, relationships, and love language topics.